Do you have weakness? I have. Have you tried to cover up your weakness? I sure did! Ever since i entered school, my “I am not good enough” mindset has had been taunting and telling me to cover up my mistakes and weaknesses by all means, to look good before others. I might have fooled many perfectly but deep in my heart, I was ashamed by my imperfection. I felt lousy and discouraged most of the time because I was far from being perfect, not to mention even close to just good enough.
As a Connection Coach, I understood the importance of connecting and owning our own weaknesses. Now I learnt to be delighted in my weaknesses in two ways. Firstly, I have learnt to accept and vulnerable about my weaknesses for it is part of who I am. I could be authentic and don’t need to put on a mask of pretense. Secondly, I see weaknesses now as I have something more to learnt and master. This would mean that any failure being translated to an opportunity to grow.
An elderly Chinese woman had two large pots, each hung on the ends of a pole which she carried across her neck to carry water from the stream to her house. One of the pots had a crack in it while the other pot was perfect and always delivered a full portion of water. At the end of the long walk to the house, the cracked pot arrived only half full. For a full two years this went on daily, with the woman bringing home only one and a half pots of water. Of course, the perfect pot was proud of its accomplishments. But the poor cracked pot was ashamed of its own imperfection, and miserable that it could only do half of what it had been made to do. After two years of what it perceived to be bitter failure, it spoke to the woman one day by the stream. ‘I am ashamed of myself, because this crack in my side causes water to leak out all the way back to your house.’
The old woman smiled, ‘Did you notice that there are flowers on your side of the path, but not on the other pot’s side?’ ‘That’s because I have always known about your flaw, so I planted flower seeds on your side of the path, and every day while we walk back, you water them.’ For two years I have been able to pick these beautiful flowers to decorate the table. Without you being just the way you are, there would not be this beauty to grace the house.’
Each of us has our own unique flaw. Even if we could not amend the flaw, we need to know that it’s the cracks and flaws we each have that make our lives together so very interesting and rewarding. What’s if the flaw or weakness you had was in fact a strength and rather it was your limiting belief that perceives it as a weakness? Thus, I have learnt to say “I am perfectly okay with my imperfection”.